Where do you cross the line? Or more specifically, where do you stop others from crossing over your line. The majority of my clients, when asked about their boundaries have to stop a moment to think. Often, this is because they haven’t firmly established self sustaining perimeters for their own health and well-being. If your self esteem or self confidence is low and most of the emotions you deal with on a regular basis are negative or upsetting, you are going to have a tough time finding balance in your life. Learning meaningful and effective ways to communicate and cope with stress can change the quality of your life and your relationships.
Emotions trigger physical responses. Often, when we perceive our integrity or safety has been threatened the limbic part of the brain sends a strong message – fight or take flight! If we can learn to pay attention to the cues our body is sending and respond mindfully rather than reactively we can circumvent conflict and\or the desire to jump ship or bail.
Feelings of powerlessness can cause anxiety. We all naturally want to feel we have power and control over our own lives. What we often fail to realize is that we actually do have power over what we say and do and can learn to control and regulate how we react to our strong emotions.
A simple prescription: Take a deep breath! And then keep breathing!
Notice how you are feeling emotionally and physically. Take a step back and identify the cause or problem.
Then clearly establish a plan of action that respects your boundaries and the boundaries of all others concerned.
Learning how to regulate one’s own emotions is an empowering thing. We are all less likely to dig in and fight or take flight if we can safely face up to whatever comes our way.
Are you tired of fighting with your spouse or your child? Are you tired of feeling powerless to change a negative situation at home, school or in the office.
Schedule a consultation today and learn how to set boundaries that support and foster the well-being of every member of your family.
Karin Yapalater MFA, CHHC, AADP
Board Certified Individual & Family Health & Nutrition Counselor
Park Avenue Integrative Health Practitioners
715 Park Avenue • New York, NY 10021