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What happens when criticizing, yelling, lecturing, and admonishing stop?
Conscious Listening and Speaking.
Often reactions to a chid’s behavior include unintended yet negative critiques, lectures and comparisons. Knowing who you are, and then communicating your own feelings and needs models healthy independence and lays the groundwork for a healthy relationship with a child. Fostering a dialogue that takes each member of the family’s feeling and needs into consideration can at times seem too arduous. Over or under indulging are extremes. Finding the middle way is key to a family’s individual and collective happiness.
Even the youngest of children can benefit when adults offer a model of self responsibility. This means: taking inventory. What’s working? What’s not working? What is out of balance? When assigning responsibility, are you setting realistic expectations? Encouraging Independence? Sending positive messages? Think about the strength of positive reinforcement. In your own life, isn’t it powerful?
Allowing our children to make mistakes and then to learn from the natural flow of consequences from their own mistakes offers real life experience that can translate into self reliance and independence. There is a big difference between the consequences that parents put in place in the form of punishment, and consequences that come as a direct result of a child’s own actions. Naturally occurring consequences – missed homework or social opportunities, a cold meal – direct outcomes of your child’s own actions are often the most powerful and meaningful when it comes to motivating a change in a child’s behavior.
The way to begin to live interdependently – rather than co-dependently – is to move towards a model of empathy and compassion.
Today, practice becoming aware of you own tendencies toward judging yourself. Then simply observe and contain how that feels. Ask yourself what it is you really need. Chances are the answer will be love and kindness.